Tag: IVF

breast cancer

I went to my fertility specialist to have a child, I left with a breast cancer

My name is Camille and I’m French. I began the IVF process at age 39 and stopped after 5 rounds at age 41. I work in the fields of culture in Paris in France where I live with my boyfriend. My story: After 2 years of trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, we opted for in…
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January 18, 2019 1
IVF

IVF Chaos, Callous Care

Sarah, who blogs at Infertility Honesty, agreed  to share her story in more detail after a small part of her IVF experience was included in a Marie Claire package of stories this month.  ~~ The chaos began early and never let up. After shedding birth control, and during our first cycle trying to conceive, I…
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October 3, 2018 4
trauma

Healthcare professionals not doing enough to address IVF trauma

Trauma surrounds infertility and IVF but it doesn’t get the attention it deserves in the media or by healthcare professionals. After an infertility diagnosis artist Elizabeth Walker (co-founder and co-director of The ART of infertility) shifted the focus of her artwork using a variety of mediums to express her experiences with infertility. She also began…
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September 24, 2018 4
medical negligence

Medical Negligence | Soul Changing, Soul Destroying

Editor’s Note: The couple (based in Europe) who provided this essay prefer not to be named as their work with a private clinic led to a medical negligence lawsuit. We respect their right to privacy and appreciate their willingness to relive and share a painful experience. Here’s their story… Matters of the mind often appear…
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July 16, 2018 1
IVF miscarriage

The Side of IVF You Won’t Hear About in the Media

‘Bamberlamb’ is from the Midlands area in England and was 34 when she began IVF after two ectopic pregnancies in her twenties. She waited until she was 34 due to a waiting list for IVF on the NHS.  After her IVF miscarriage she began a blog about living with infertility. She works full time as…
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May 16, 2018 12
IVF

IVF Left Us Traumatised and Heartbroken

Former IVF patient Professor James Arvanitakis is a Lecturer in Humanities; Dean, Graduate Studies at West Sydney University; a writer and a contributor to ABCNews24 Breakfast. In 2012 he was named Prime Minister’s University Lecturer of the Year. He wrote the following piece for the The Sydney Morning Herald and agreed to let us share…
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April 24, 2018 1
'fertility' industry

Questioning the ‘Fertility’ Industry

Writer Christina Gombar first posed a provocative question about the ‘fertility’ industry lobbying efforts in 2009: Should IVF Coverage Be Mandatory? In a stand against RESOLVE’s stated goal to “control the conversation,” she agreed to let her 2009 post be shared further. ~~ Should IVF Coverage Be Mandatory? A couple of Decembers ago, I got…
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April 11, 2018 1
IVF

IVF Revisited: Emotional, Physical and Financial Torture

I am 39 years old and from Australia. It’s been 10 years since ending IVF treatment in bitter disappointment; 14 years since starting to ‘try’; 16 years married; 20 years together. My story: I was in an administration job I hated when we first started IVF but after treatment failed I went back to university…
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March 1, 2018 3
IVF clinic

IVF Clinics Don’t Explain ‘Horrendous Grief’

Lucy is a 34-year-old legal secretary from Farnborough in north east Hampshire, England. Her story in her words: 10 May 2013 was truly a beautiful day. I turned 30 and got married to the love of my life. I couldn’t wait to start our own family. The doctors said it was normal for a lady…
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October 23, 2017 3
Fertility doctor

“This is an Easy Fix!” and Other ‘Fertility’ Doctor Lies

Michelle is a 33-year-old teacher from Texas. Her story in her words: The love of my life and I married at 28 and 22.  I couldn’t wait to start a family with him.  Motherhood was what I hoped and dreamed of since childhood.  When my friends would talk about what they wanted to be when…
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October 9, 2017 3